Kilaka: How to manage your anger
By Esther Kilaka
Angry? Here is how to manage your anger in a healthy way.
Do you ever get angry for no particular reason but at almost everything and it is getting into your head? You are perfectly normal. “Anyone can become angry- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way is not easy.” Aristotle said in his The Nicomachean Ethics.
Effects of being angry
Being angry brings a lot of negative effects in your body; mentally, physically and emotionally. Physically, it brings some short and long term effects including: headache, heart attack, high blood pressure and even stroke. Anger also lowers your self-esteem and brings conflicts between you and your colleagues thus destroying your relationships.
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Buildup of anger inside you stirs a lot of spiteful emotions and may lead to anger explosions. Anger explosions may then results to physical abuse and violence. Some people consider anger as a ‘bad’ emotion and choose to suppress it. However, bottled anger turns to depression and anxiety. Anger is best treated when expressed in a healthy way.
How to cool down when angry
Some of the healthy ways of expressing anger include; walking out of the situation temporarily until you cool down. Take a walk around your home area. The walk does not necessarily need to have destination. Leave your worries at home and pay attention to nature during this time. Another way is pin pointing the exact reasons why you feel angry. Once you identify the problem, come up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation. Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling or better yet, journal about it. It is very important to recognize and accept anger as normal and as a part of life.
Helping children manage their anger
Expressing anger appropriately is a learned behavior and should be cultivated during young age. Some ways of helping children deal with anger include; leading by example, treating their feelings with respect, allowing them to express their anger in appropriate ways and teaching them appropriate ways of calming and soothing themselves when they experience this emotion.
Long-term anger can be tamed if properly managed. Anger management tips include; thinking before you speak when you are angry to avoid saying something you will later regret. Do not hold a grudge. You should never allow anger to crowd your positive towards someone who makes you angry. Forgiveness is powerful tool. Use humor to release tension but ensure you avoid sarcasm. It can hurt feelings and make things worse. Practice relaxation skills like taking deep-breathing exercises, imagining a relaxing scene or repeating a calming word or phrase.
Always seek help from a doctor or a counselor for anger issues if your anger seems out of control or causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. Being angry is very okay but put in mind not to hurt those around you through actions or words.
Esther Kilaka is a Journalism and Digital Media student at KCA University.